Sometimes we just need a quiet space to be alone. What’s so wrong with that?

Pressure from just about everywhere has led almost every introvert into believing our quiet way of life is somehow not the right way. Too often, introverts struggle to be something we are not, and someone we were never meant to be. At the end of the day, even if an introverted person successfully pulls off the daunting task of conforming to the society’s idea of right, everybody loses. The individual loses themselves in the process, coworkers and acquaintances are deprived of their true personality and their community and society overall may be deprived of their possible contributions.

We’re not anti-social

It makes sense for us to wonder why this is still happening. Why has our society taken on the responsibility of determining what personality traits are right or wrong? And why are we required to conform to a lifestyle we are not suited to? Introverts naturally require plenty of quiet time to ourselves. It’s only normal for us to feel uncomfortable in the midst of living life with so many others. Sometimes, seemingly mundane occurrences like commuting on a crowded subway or having a baby that constantly cries can be mentally and physically draining. Often, the people around fail to realize this simple truth. They are quick to label the behavior as anti-social, stubbornly refusing to acknowledge it is only natural to have varying proclivities and preferences.

Solitude is necessary in order to unlock the creativity within us.

Answer the call of solitude

Research has proven that introverts prefer their own company. This is not to reinforce the erroneous idea that introverts are a group of depressed people that are incapable of social interaction or speaking in public. For some introverts, their vibe lies outdoors; silently watching nature unfold or at other rare times, the bustle of people in a park or on the streets while sitting in a quiet corner. The important factor though is solitude. Having time to process their thoughts without constantly having to answer questions or chip into a conversation.

Solitude is necessary in order to unlock the creativity within us. This makes having a quiet space in the home something every introvert should consider. Creating such area requires full intent. If the place is to serve its purpose, you would need to be deliberate about the design, arrangement and how you take care of the room after creating it. If others around see how well you treat it, they are likely to take a cue from you and also regard it as sacred. But do not let us get ahead of ourselves just yet. Below is a simple guide on how you can create your own quiet space at home.

Brown wooden door with a white, wooden-framed sign handing from the doorknob that reads: 'Do not disturb' to indicate a quiet space

Find your quiet space

Look around your home and get creative to find a special space suited just for you. It could be a spare bedroom. Or maybe an underutilized corner in your bedroom or living room. Maybe it’s a secluded spot in the attic or basement. Maybe it’s a walk-in closet that you can make into a cozy sanctuary. Could converting a backyard shed be an option? Even a bathroom can become your relaxing get-away-from-it-all. (Think, “Calgon, take me away!”)

Remove the noise

Aside from the sounds you consciously pay attention to, there may be a lot of noise in your house that you’re probably not aware of. To test this, turn off your stereo or TV when you’re home alone and listen. You’ll probably hear the hum of the refrigerator, the measured tick of the clock, the air conditioning system’s whoosh and some other sounds you didn’t even know existed. External sounds such as the bark of your neighbor’s dog or the blare of his stereo would also be audible. While these sounds may seem negligible, you can’t afford to have them disturbing your quiet space as they can get on your nerves just as much as any other sound you hate.

Select a suitable space devoid of these distracting sounds. Getting rid of distracting sound in your home may require some investment. If your appliances are old and cranky, you should consider replacing them with newer, sound efficient models. And if the noise from your neighbor’s is proving too much of a distraction, consider sound-proofing your quiet space.

Create some room

One of the many components of quiet is ‘free’. Your quiet space doesn’t have to be so large. But you can’t afford a crowded quite space. Even in the world of interior décor, busy is synonymous with noisy. You should be picky about the things you put in your quiet space. If the room you have in mind is filled with stuff, take the time to declutter. This doesn’t mean you must tow the path of ardent devotees of decluttering and leave your room near empty. An overly empty room could, in fact, turn out counterproductive for an introvert who already loves meditating. Select the furniture you are in tune with, pick some other stuff you want in the room and strategically place them such that they are clustered in nooks.

Make it yours

The term introvert describes up to one half of the human population. Needless to say, the demographic is extremely diverse and it would be difficult to generalize for so many individuals. While some traits may be common to most introverts, there is absolutely no guide that would dictate what to make of your quiet space and get it spot on. Use your superior powers of self-awareness to create your peaceful retreat. As an introvert, you’re probably already poised to exercise your lucid imagination to decide what you want or do not want. All you need to do is spend some time to self-reflect and the answers would definitely come.

When decorating your quiet space, you’ll need to make decisions relating to the color, lighting, furniture, objects and appliances in the room. There’s no need to stress about making these decisions. Simply listen to your thoughts and the answers would surely come.

Use your superior powers of self-awareness to create your peaceful retreat.

A quiet space is a must-have for every introvert and there are no hard and fast rules guiding how your quiet space should or should not be. What is most important is that you should design the nook or room to suit your needs. Furthermore, treat the place as special if you want others to do the same. You should also be flexible about the elements in the room. Once you feel there’s anything that is not in tune with what you want in your quiet time, do not hesitate to change it. Finally, your quiet space should not be an excuse to shut people out of your life. As much as you expect your extroverted family members or friends to make allowances for you, you may want to consider letting them visit every once in a while when you’re up for it. Or maybe not.